How to react ‘better’ *

  • * ‘Better’ – because we all have ways we could subtly change or adjust to make life easier for ourselves.

As we’re constantly moving & on the go – finding our inner zen can be tough.

We might start the day quite relaxed after a peaceful sleep but then have it be interrupted by minor things that really turn into major effects on our moods.
Shitty traffic, pressing work calls/meetings and even the barista getting our coffee order wrong. 
Right now as you read this, probably nodding your head to the familiar sounding situation – ask yourself…

“In a chaotic/stressful/challenging moment, what is my typical reaction or behaviour?”

Some of us are fully aware of our coping mechanisms. I will admit mine is over-thinking and anxiety which then can turn into comfort eating.
Whether you’re sure or unsure of your reactions, it’s always a good time to start to try and amend them to work for us in our favour.

Some of our reactions and behaviours aren’t always best for us – I’ll take my overthinking as an example. My overthinking will lead to worry and anxiety which just fuels the negativity and almost puts me in an impossible state to go back to my baseline self.
It’s almost like a snowball effect for some of us – a negative experience fuels a negative reaction and we continue along on a negative path… Until what?
Until I finally cool down in my own space and reflect on the low vibrational reactions and decisions I’ve made – then it’s too late to amend. 

What is the trick then? How exactly can we react ‘better’?

A tool that I learnt in CBT – was that in order to react ‘better’ we must learn how to break the habits and chains of our patterns. We do this by hitting the PAUSE button – literally by pausing in that very moment.
By choosing how we want to react as opposed to how we usually react.
Pausing in that very moment that we might make a typical turn into our negative spiral.

Taking a pause isn’t easy when we’ve lived on auto-pilot for so long.
Taking a pause takes effort and strength, it takes reminders and practice.
Taking a pause can be as simple as taking a conscious breath – before moving into our habits.

By taking a pause, we interrupt the typical pattern of our behaviours. We begin to start to realise that we’re pausing for a moment and for a reason and we start to question what to do next, rather than jumping right into the very thing that might cause us grief.

Next time you find yourself in a situation that you know you would typically get carried away in your negative reaction. Hit PAUSE… 
It gives you that extra space to think and mindfully choose to react ‘better’ or even just a little differently.

 

  • I would love to hear from you if you adapt this or if you’ve tried to hit ‘pause’ before & how it worked for you.

 

B x

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